Don't say it; Spray it!

I love my girlfriend. Let me rephrase that. I EROS my girlfriend. And I tell her that everyday I see her.

"Katie, I love you."

"I love you too."

That's a good thing. I'm letting her know that I'm attracted to her. I'm letting her know that she's still pleasing to me, physically. She needs to know this. She's a woman (a species that should always be assured they are wanted. Trust me, they're not the only ones...), and I need to constantly tell her that I still enjoy kissing her, holding her, whispering sweet nothings in her ear.

But when I say, "I love you," that is the only thing I mean. I don't mean that I Agape her. I only mean I Eros her.

On the other hand, I enjoy doing things for Katie. Two nights ago my Aunt was down from Northern Washington. On an average I get to see this Aunt twice a year. While I was sitting down and eating, I got a call from Katie. She was in tears.

I asked her one important question: do you need me?

Family or not, sickness, health, crying or happy, I will one day pledge to be there by Katie's side. But I'm not waiting for marriage. It happens now. I should show her I Agape her NOW.

I have some married friends who I was talking with last night. It amazes me how much they talk. As I sat with them, they entered into one of their conversations. She told him that she thought they were approaching [the situation we were talking about] the wrong way. The conversation that followed was complete honesty, all the way. Agape.

S/He falls down; you help them up. AGAPE.

S/He suffers; you hold their hand. AGAPE.

S/He calls on you for help; you don't hesitate. AGAPE.

Agape is pure, action-showed love. You can't say it; you have to spray it.